I will be going over some basics of the book and how this book can help you in your everyday life.


People Justify

The book starts off with a very interesting topic, and an important one to realize. It is a psychological trait that we all have as human beings, and understanding it makes it easier to deal with people of different walks of life.

People will justify everything that they do whether it is good or bad in another person’s eyes. An example is if a person were to rob a bank, or even commit a murder. They will give their personal reason to why they did it, and to why they had to do it.

It is a trait that we all share, and when we understand that we come one step closer to understanding ourselves and other’s. That is why it is often important not to cast blame on an individual on why they did what they did, but to understand why they did it.

One thing that is extremely important to know when dealing with people. Now in the book they are not saying to justify an incorrect act, but putting a person into damnation will only bring their defenses up. Which is a situation that does not help either party.


Understanding that people will justify leads straight into the importance of why you should empathize with others. Empathizing means taking the time to understand another individual and doing your best to view the world the way they view it.

Doing this can help build a connection. Think about yourself. How much better does it feel when you know an individual takes the time to understand why you see the world the way you see it. The book explains this in detail, and honestly I personally think it is just the right thing to do. People need and want to be loved and taking the time to understand why they do what they do is a part of being a loving individual. It really helps both sides unite better.

Treat people well

The book goes over the major emphasize of treating other’s well. This is a saying that are mom’s used to tell us always saying “Treat people the way you would want to be treated”. Truly it is simple in theory, but becomes increasingly difficult if not practice.

I think as people we all have the ability to be very kind, but sometimes life can teach you to think too much of yourself. Putting people in a me, me, me state. Not realizing that to really get what we want we have to do right by other’s.

Taking the time and energy to do right by other’s, will almost always give certainty they will do right by you. Leading to a true win-win situation. Which is the best situation people could ask for.


The book explains how people will mirror one another. Something that I really picked up to be true in life. Basically people will treat you the way that you treat them.

If you are honest and kind, they will be honest and kind with you. The reverse of that is also true. If you are lying and try to manipulate someone, odds are they will lie and manipulate you or just avoid you altogether.

People will mirror you on how you act towards them. Now I do believe it is true that sometimes people can be in a dark place, and people may ask what do you do about them? My personal opinion on that would be to avoid them, because like any mirror it can work in the reverse too. You may find yourself being a little more upset with the world hanging around that kind of energy. The book does not really touch on that part, but I think that is important to understand so wanted to go over that a bit.

Generally speaking though the book does explain how people will naturally mirror you. So do your best to be upbeat and take the time to show them love, because doing that will ensure that they will most likely do the same.


I would have to say all in all this book is a very good read. It does go over the psychology of people and how they respond to things, and how to take the time to understand a person.

When you take the time to understand people it just makes everything much easier to do, and it helps you be less wrapped up in the world of life is just about you.

We are all floating on this rock we call earth together. So we need to treat it as such. The book how to win friends and influence people go into detail the simple truths that we all need to sometimes hear and reflect on.

My message is about greatness being in all of us, and this book really aligns with that message. I love to see it when people come together to empower one another and we just come together to create win-win situations for all. Using the sayings in this book on further explains why it is important to treat other’s right, but also how it empowers other’s and brings them together to rise.

We are social creatures and it is important that we unite as such. If you have not read this book I would definitely suggest taking the time to check it out. You can click here to order it online.

I hope you enjoyed the review, and would love to hear your thoughts on it. Also, if you have personally read the book How to win Friends and Influence People, would like to know how did you like it?

Disclaimer: I get a commission for purchase made on this link. This is my honest review and personal opinion on this book, and also a book that I have personally read.




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Comments (6)

  1. Connie B.


    Great Content Clifford!
    I like how you implemented this book in your site. I read it a long time ago, and it was definatly one more people need to read!
    Keep up the great work!
    Connie B.

  2. Stephen


    Thanks a lot for the great review! It’s a book that’s long been on my list but I’ve not got around to reading it yet. Your review has pushed me to read it after the one I’m currently reading!

    Is it a book you would read more than once? I actually know people who have read it several times.

    • Clifford Starks


      Glad you liked the review Stephen! Yes it is one of my favorite books, and I have read it 4 times already. When you do end up reading it please let me know how you liked it!

  3. AG


    This is one of those great books which have multiple purposes in life. You can use it for self-development and working on improving your relationship with people to whom you work, live, hangout etc.; you can use it for business when it comes improving your managements skills; you can use it in marketing purposes – because it does offer great tips on how you should handle your customers.

    This book is one of my favorite books that I’ve read so far. You can read full review of it on my blog:

    My blog is a place where you can find reviews and summaries of books that I’ve read. Those reviews and summaries can be helpful for everyone who is looking for good books to read.

    • Reply

      Very true, it is a book that brings a lot of things together in terms of networking and creating win-win situations. When you help others they will help you, and that is important in all areas. Thank you for your comment,and I hope you have a bless day.

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