Take your power back, and feel the true control that you have been missing.

Who we give our power to

The crazy thing about this is as individuals we can give our power to so many people without really realizing it. We can start by giving our power to our parent’s, friends, family members, bosses, coworker’s, society and the list can go on.

Sometimes these people can have our best interest in mind, and you might have others who want to hold you down and keep you under their thumb. So the question you should as yourself first is who do you give your power to first?

Is there anyone you have make the decisions for your life? Where you should go, what you should be, what steps you should take, and what your goals should be?

In a society it can dictate what the status co should be. It used to be go to school, get a good paying job, work there until you retire, live on your retirement. Now it is you can drop out of school you don’t need it, become an entrepreneur, make millions online, get your time back.

The problem with both scenarios it just tells people what they should become. Take the time to ask yourself, what do you want to do, what are you passionate about, what do you love?

We are all unique so each person’s answer should be unique to them. Take back your power and ask yourself what do you want to do in life? What are your goals and ambitions, and how will you reach them?

Do not victimize yourself

I would be a fool to say that bad things do not happen in this world. Or that the world was completely fair, it is not. People have different struggles, and situations. Life does not hand everyone the best card to play with. It is important to know though that the worst kind of victimization though is in the mind.

If you become a victim in your own head, how can you possibly see change occur. If you know something is unfair, and you constantly sit back and talk about how unfair it is odds are things will not change. Now if you know something is unfair, and you empower yourself to do something and help change that situation with the action that you take now that is taking control and taking back your power.

Do not allow yourself or anyone else make you the victim in your mind. You have the power to take control of your life if you open your mind and allow it. It is about being resourceful sometimes not about having the resources.

Take Oprah Winfrey for example. She had the odds stacked against her more than most. She was a black woman in a very difficult time for black woman, went to school with a potato bag as a dress, had personal family struggles with her uncle, and became a talk show host in probably one of the most difficult time for a black female to do it in.

Oprah did it her way. She took her power, she didn’t allow people to take it from her. Many people probably talked about how she would not be able to achieve it or how the position she was putting herself in was not smart, but she did it her way. Oprah took her own personal power and used it to become one of the most powerful women in the world today.

Know your worth and go out and get your worth. There is greatness in you, and deep down inside you know it is true. If it is just a small voice that comes out from time to time you know it. Listen to that voice take back your power!

Take responsibility

Have you ever heard the saying “with great power comes great responsibility”? They love to use it in super hero movies, but it is true in your life. In order to take back your power you have to take responsibility for what happens to you in your life.

Sometimes that is how we lose our power in the first place. We do not want to be responsible for anything, so we let someone else handle it not realizing we are handing over one of our most important commodities with it as well, our own power.

Take control, take back responsibility for what happens in your life, and take back your power.

A guy by the name of Gary Vaynerchuk said the funniest thing that really resonated with me. He said if he was to leave a meeting 10 minutes early, and he ended up getting hit by a car, he would blame himself for getting hit by the car because he left 10 minutes early. Now he admits deep down inside he understands life is just life and sometimes things happen that we cannot control, but that is the world he lives it. He has ultimate control of his life, his destiny, and his goals.

Now you do not have to take it to the extremes that he does, but just taking responsibility for your life will be one of the greatest assets to you in taking back the power in your life!

Surround yourself with those who empower

In life there are those who take, and those who give. You ever been around someone who could suck the life out of you, and make you feel down? Or around someone who just lifts your spirits and makes you feel like you are on top of the world and like you can do anything?

Which one would you choose to be around? I don’t know about you but I personally would choose the one who is going to lift me up! Hang around those who empower you, and watch how you take control of your life!

Now a very important thing I must mention those who empower you and those who entitle you are very different things. You do not want to hang around a bunch of yes men and women telling you how great you are all the time. You want people who are going to be honest with you, and who will call you on your stuff and at the same time lifting you up and cheering you on.

It is your time

Now I ask you are you ready to take back what is rightfully yours? Are you ready to take back your power! It is yours go be the best damn you that you can be! Find your passion, live your dreams, reach your goals, because they are yours!

This is not a selfish thing, quite the contrary it is a selfless thing you are doing. Why, because a person who is truly happy reaching their goals and dreams is loving life. If you are loving life that means you are loving other’s, you will be in a positive state a person who believes in themselves wants to ultimately believe in other’s as well.

I want you to reach your goals, but only you have the control to do that. Take back your power, and go and do great things!





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Comments (4)

  1. Kris


    Nice article Cliff! Life is hard sometimes, you try and try to be better and go forward 2 steps, then back one or even 2. It takes guts to keep on pushing through even when the odds are against you.
    I have personally taken the power back into my life and am changing it for the better. Doing what I want to do, and spending money on things that make me happy, instead of being trapped. Thanks for the article and insight!!

    • Clifford Starks


      Hello Kris, I am glad to hear that you are taking the power back in your life and doing what makes you happy! Have a blessed day!

  2. Chris Meche


    Thanks for the post. I really appreciate what you had to say about surrounding yourself with those that empower. Sometimes, people don’t realize how much their associates can affect their state of mind. Negative people only breed negative thinking. That type of thinking will wear you down. The old saying, “birds of a feather flock together”, is true. Sure, it’s painful, but sometimes you have to cut negative people out of your life.

    • Clifford Starks


      Absolutely Chris, glad you agree with surrounding yourself with those who will empower you. You are right it can be tough to cut some people out of your life and get out of toxic friendships. I always say wish the best for them and hope they will come out of their toxic attitude on their own time. Be blessed Chris!

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