The process

This seems to be one of the most elusive question people run into often. How do I find my purpose? It is almost like when people ask it they will receive the answer right there. Sometimes people think if they wait long enough they will just feel it. The reality is that to find your purpose you have to actively seek it out.

Too often when get trapped in this belief that your purpose should be an easy answer, but the reality is that it isn’t. Think of it this way if I asked you, how do you become an adult. People would have many answer behind the question. Being an adult means you are more mature, you take care of others, you plan ahead, you are wiser, you are more responsible, and the list goes on.

No one would say honestly that once you turn 18 that makes you an adult. It is the life experiences that you have gone through that put you into a place to act more like an adult.

The same is true for finding your passion. It’s not just in front of you saying here I am, I am your passion. You have to try different things. Take the time to learn yourself, and learn what really works best for you. It really is an experimental process that you have to go through.

Answer the tough questions and take risk

At one time I wish there was an easier answer, but as I get older I realize just how fun it is to learn what you are passionate about. One thing I will say is surrounding yourself around those who will ask you the difficult questions will make finding your passion that much easier.

My dad used to grill me with some of the craziest question. What do you want to do with your life? What do you like and hate in life? How much do you want to make in the next five years? Are you happy with where you are at now?

Those questions used to drive me crazy when I was younger. I appreciate them now and realize it helped to prepare me to focus on what I wanted in life. I may not have had all the answers to the questions given to me, but it put me in a position to really think about what I wanted in life. Leaning to try different things, because sometimes you just have to try something to really see if it works for you. Also being proactive in my own life and not reactive.

Once, I really started finding answers to the questions he gave me it all pointed to I love to help others. I like to put people in a position of success, and honestly when it is done properly it creates win-win situations for all parties involved. When people are happy and healthy it makes it a better environment for everyone involved.

My advice

So if I could give you any advice to finding your passion it would be to try a variety of different things. See what sticks for you. It is also important to surround yourself with those who will ask you the tough questions. That will force you to think. Leading you to understanding yourself at an even deeper level.

Honestly one of the best feelings is finding what you are passionate about. The great part of the self discovery is when you do find it, it will be your own story.

If you have found your passion please leave it in the comments and share what helped you find it.

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Comments (4)

  1. Flavia


    I agree with your advice and answer to this common thought provoking question! I think everyone at one stage will struggle with this in their life. You gave the perfect answer, in that there is no straight answer to this question.

    It will reveal itself unto you as you go about your life and take the necessary actions that are needed for you to reach your goals and dreams. It won’t come if you just sit and do nothing.

    Life is about taking risks and I see it as a journey filled with adventures. You decide how you want to live it out.

    • Clifford Starks


      Thank you for the comment Flavia, and I am glad to hear you agree. I think the more people know about their own journey. The more willing people will be to put the effort in to find their own personal success. 

      I hope that you have a blessed day Flavia. 

  2. Julian



    I can tell that you have a dad that cared about your future and was priming you to be better/think deeper. What a mentor! And I agree that finding your purpose needs to have some action behind it. You cannot wait for it to just magically find you.

    Thanks for the inspiration.


    • Clifford Starks


      Hi Jay,

      Yes my dad was an amazing father figure, could not have asked for a better one. I am glad you liked the article.

      Have a blessed day,


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